Tuesday, February 18, 2014

The Kindness of Paying Attention

"Tell me to what you pay attention and I will tell you who you are."
― José Ortega y Gasset

I have a very special friend from college.  She is more like family than a friend.  We met early on freshman year.  We lived on the same floor in the dorms and were in the same academic discipline.  Because we live in different parts of the country, I don't see her as much as I'd like.  But every so often, I am in her neck of the woods.  And, fortunately, she has been coming to my part of the world on an annual basis for a few years.

My special friend is in town and it was a treat to have dinner with her and my children.  The children all love their Tía, who on this occasion took them for a spin in her red convertible luxury rental.  They love the way she speaks (a mix of growing up abroad and English boarding school).  And probably more than anything, my children love the way she pays attention to them.  She asks them questions and listens -- really listens -- to their answers.  And she actually remembered one of their favorite dishes at the restaurant.

I know that the way my friend pays attention is one of the many things I love about her, too.  Her paying attention is a way of saying "you matter to me."  And that kindness means the world to children -- and to their mother.

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