Thursday, June 26, 2014

The Kindness of Providing Calm and Clarity

"The secret of success is to be in harmony with existence, to be always calm, to let each wave of life was us a little farther up the shore."
―  Cyril Connolly

One of my favorite ideas is from Sylvia Boorstein, a teacher of Buddhist mindfulness, who says that it is important to breathe to calm our bodies, so that our minds can calm down, and that enables us to have clarity, which leads us to see choices, and gives us hope and courage.  

But sometimes, it is hard to do that on our own.

As I rushed to the airport yesterday, worried about missing my flight and not making it home for my daughter's birthday, I called a friend from the cab.  I needed her to help me with a birthday-related surprise.  She was definitely the person for the job.  When she was told that the order I wanted to place needed to be done with 48 hours' notice as opposed to the 24 hours I had been told, she simply replied "ridiculous!" and proceeded to get it done.  Her helping me with that is certainly kindness enough.  But the greater gift that she gave me was that as I was panicking about not getting home, she told me not to worry that there were plenty of flights from where I was to our city.  She said she knew because she had flown from there before.  I believed her and calmed down. 

Sometimes, we need the kindness of our friends to help us out of panic and into calm.

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