The Kindness of Lovely Words

"For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone."

~ Audrey Hepburn

It is amazing how so much of what we say isn't really nice.  There is the negative comment about someone else -- typically not present; there is the put down of someone present -- subtle or otherwise; there is the question raised that carries within it not just curiosity, but judgment; there is the snarky comment or laugh at someone else's expense that generates a shared chuckle and the perception of closeness among those involved...  I have wondered what it would be like to only speak in ways that contribute positively to the conversation -- completely aspirational for me.  But then there is my lovely friend.  She seems to always find the good in situations; she is supportive; and she never expresses curiosity that is not based in genuine concern.